We can all agree, this year has been unbelievably crazy. Trust me. I’m with you on this one.
However it is my BIRTHDAY!!!
I really thought about everything between my last birthday and this one, and it is truly amazing how God has brought me in and through some times in my life. There are some things that I really didn’t think I could overcome this year, and he made it effortless. And for that, I am thankful! Every year, I take some time to do an audit on the past year and really think of some key things that I can work on moving forward, some things that I’m not proud of, or just life lessons in general. This year, I spent time really diving in on my life lessons in “Year 27”, and I am hopeful that what I share with you, might help transform your attitude on life going into 2021.
Let’s Dive In!
#1: Be open to letting go of the old, and welcoming the new.
This year has been honestly, eye opening. I’ve had beef with people I didn’t know I had beef with (Lol, like how does that happen). I’ve been disrespected, mistreated, and the list can go on and on. With all of this, it naturally makes people hard on the inside to welcoming new adventures, new friends, new experiences. Why? Because we are guarded, and down right tired of being hurt. I completely get it. I changed my entire attitude on this. Honestly, the start of my birthday last year was probably the worst birthday in my entire life. I say that with conviction. It was tom foolery. I could’ve really held on to that hurt, that anger, and that mess. But I didn’t. I was open to letting go of the old, and welcoming the new. Since then, I have reconnected with MULTIPLE friends that I have honestly missed being in my life, I opened my mind to moving to a different state, and I have opened up my life to being a better friend to people who deserve it. Saying goodbye to toxic things and traits is not the worst thing in the world, trust me. Sometimes you are honestly better off without it. Welcoming the new, welcomes new possibilities, new mindsets, and a new heart. I welcomed the idea of not being afraid to move. And…I’m honestly proud of myself. I haven’t cried once (LOL!). I also welcomed the idea of being more intentional with my life. What we want in our life, takes intention. There is absolutely no way you will ever prosper in life, if you are not dedicated and intentional with your actions. Going into 2021, be open to change and letting go of the old, and welcoming anything new!
#2: Become Intentional about your Purpose
The beginning of this year, I really wasted it on worrying about the wrong things. I’m just being 100% honest. And because of that, I wasted valuable time, that I should’ve been utilizing to tap into my purpose, and do what I love to do. Which is blogging. I absolutely love this space that I created. I love growing my special little small community, and I love talking about anything that I want when I want to. I know there is a market for me in this blogger industry, and I am setting my self up to be intentional about tapping into that purpose. This a big lesson I learned this year. Don’t let people, things, and work distract you from your TRUE purpose. Hear me when I say the “TRUE” part. Not an idea that is someone else’s, that you think you can profit off of. YOUR true purpose. Before you go into 2021, be clear on what your purpose is…and if you don’t know what it is, be clear on finding something that truly makes you smile day in and day out. The rest will find you.
#3: Love with No Conditions
And no, I’m not just talking about my love life. LOL! I’m talking about everything. One thing that really disappointed me in my 27th year, was not openly telling people how much I love and care about them. Making sure that you are telling people you love them is essential, and not when they are just sad. Saying it on a random Tuesday when the birds are chirping, and nothing is wrong! I used to have a tendency (when I was down in my life) to limit myself on showing love, or putting conditions on my love. Why would I do that? What blessing am I getting by doing that. I changed that IMMEDIATELY. The second that I did that, I opened my life to so many blessings that have honestly transitioned my entire life. I started making sure my friends and family knew how much I loved them, and the reasons why I loved them. I make it a point in my week to encourage 1 or 2 of my friends. I do that to make sure that they know they always have me on their side through any decision they feel open to talk to me about. That is how you show Love with no conditions. Putting your “bs” aside to make room to show love to people who deserve it. Even if you don’t feel like it, try it one day. Send a text message that says “Remember when this happened 5 years ago….I really needed you through that time. I love our friendship”. It will most likely change your life, and also change the person on the receiving ends day.
This is more of my “lengthier” posts, but I felt it was needed. I always keep this in my mind when I’m writing blog posts- you never know who you are healing.
I hope my transparency, is leading you in the right direction with any decisions you are wrestling with going into 2021.
Here’s to 28!! A year of intention, love, and saying SEE YA to the toxic vibes!!
Infamously Yours,
Joi
